Love is a gift and it should be given freely.
Most people would agree with this statement, I agree with this statement! The problem is that in all of the relationships that I have had in my life this has not been the case. This is a harsh reality to face but it is nevertheless the truth.
As I continue to open my heart and soul to God’s Love and Truth I am coming to realize that every relationship that I have had in my life, including my soulmate relationship, has had conditions attached to it, addictions that I need to have met, unloving demands placed upon the recipient of this so-called love. I ‘love’ you so you must love me back. I ‘love’ you so you must provide for me and keep me safe. I ‘love’ you so that you will be my friend etc. But this is NOT love, it is demand couched in unloving expectations and it is not a gift at all. A gift should be freely offered without expectation or demand.
The Oxford Dictionary defines Gift as “the voluntary transfer of property without compensation”. The trouble is that I am beginning to realize that I have given very little in my life as a true gift, I have always wanted something in return – love, recognition, acknowledgement, a gift in return, and this is not true giving, it is not love, it is demand born out of addiction. How shocking it is to recognize this truth about myself!
The truth is that I do not yet know how to truly love as God intended us to love – freely and without demand or expectation.
So how do I get to this place of being able to give freely and to love freely without demand or expectation?
I am coming to realize that the only way to do this effectively is with God. By gradually opening my heart and soul to God’s Truth, the errors in my soul can leave me and God’s Love can take their place. And this process requires true humility, something that I am still struggling with and I realize that I do not yet really understand love. I do not yet know how to love unconditionally. I do not yet know how to give myself freely, from the heart without expectation or demand, and this is the biggest barrier that I face in my soulmate relationship, in all of my relationships.
I wish that I could write that I finally understand love and that I am at last truly able to love unconditionally, but the truth is that I am only just beginning to understand love and in order to grow in love I must turn to God and ask Him to show we the truth of the errors in my soul that prevent love from blossoming there. I must somehow find the courage to let go of all my old false beliefs around love and allow God to show me the truth. I must be willing to learn to love God and myself first so that I can love others as God intended – freely and without expectation or demand. And truthfully, right now I am struggling with this. I am finding it difficult to let God love me the way She wants to, completely and freely, for God can only love me as much as I am willing to allow that love in. I am struggling to accept that in order to love I must fully let go, for it is only in the letting go that love can truly blossom.
Please God, give me the courage and the willingness to let go of all of my false beliefs and expectations around love so that real love might fill my soul and I might learn to love freely and unconditionally in return.